So then I get this letter from my sister Di in Florida this morning and it too had information to move me forward.
Inspired by a visit she had with a dear friend.
“I had brunch Saturday with — and we did some catching up. You know how we can get to feeling sorry for ourselves, then we hear (see) what someone else is going through and we have to stop ourselves and thank God for what we have? Well, it was one of those visits. I remembered that she wears me out, but had forgotten the why. She is brilliant, she has a PhD and is a very attractive woman. She has so many great ideas and a bit like us with so many interests and so many things we would like to do. However, her problem isn’t her childhood insecurities that we battle. She and her daughter had been attacked in their home …, about 15 years ago and the attacker beat her on the head. She suffered some brain damage … This is the part that wears me out, when we visit for more than a few minutes and get into deeper conversation she zones out for a minute or two and I just have to wait until she is able to collect her thoughts. This goes on over and over and over. If it is a short conversation you would never notice, but longer conversations is another matter. As she ages, as we both now know, this type of injury will take a greater toll.”
We do know having cared for and seen the decline of our mother who had Alzheimer’s and know the progression and damage of beatings previously incurred. So I couldn’t help but feel empathy for my sister’s dear friend.
What encouraged me about the letter though was that we all have dreams. Some will come to fruition, some not.
Everyone has battles, some greater than others. But the question is what are we going to do to rise above them, to move forward and not give up?
MY SISTER SANDY –
I have another sister, Sandy. She’s as poor as a church mouse. She also doesn’t have the mental capacity of others. She’s not stupid, it’s just that…not all her cogs are aligned right. (There was no diagnosis when we were kids but it is a mild autism or what they now refer to as Asperger’s syndrome) Like Di’s friend, you might not notice it short term, but it becomes apparent after a bit.
My point in referencing her is that she is motivated and when she sets her mind on something she goes at it tooth and nail.
When her son was being accused of the sexual molestation of his two children, she wrote a book (it was a retaliatory divorce that got way out of hand). And, although the story is not done, it appears it will get thrown out of court. In the meantime, what a hellacious experience.
In my sisters pain, she wrote two stories. One, about coercion and encouraging children to tell the truth and doing what’s right, no matter what, even if it’s painful to them or to others.
She even made a doll to go with the story. Bobo is the child’s advocate.
Despite her in-capacities she has bull- dozed her way into getting noticed and managed to get interest in the books and is in the process of getting her Bobo doll patented and stories copyrighted. ( I may have to delete this if I find she’s not okay with me releasing information about her work yet) I do believe her books are on Amazon though.
My question is IF she can do it then what excuse have you or I got?!!
I hear people making excuses for their lack of success, blaming others for why they didn’t catch the breaks! Have you ever been around someone like that? And… it’s always the rich guy who’s at fault! He’s the guy who has succeeded, making it look relatively easy yet busted his butt to get where he’s at but unseen to the complainers eye. If you ever watched Donald Trump’s daughter on “The Apprentice”, you know what I mean.
Sure there are trust-funders that seem to have it made and some will make it, but like everyone else, others won’t. Trust me, it’s not a bed of roses for them either, I’ve known a few. I had a friend and although she “had it made” a requirement to receiving money was proving herself in order to inherit. She had X number of years to do it too. She was quite the hustler. She worked hard and played harder.
My point is always, “How bad do you want it?” Really.
In fact that’s a question I must ask myself daily and when I say “bad”, then it’s time to get back to work!