Have you ever had your tongue stilled?
Your heart and mind is saying what you know you need to say but your mouth is sealed?
When it comes to a Christians ministry, not every moment is the right moment.
I have found that God always knows when the time is right and gives you the words when you need them.
A friend I know claims to be atheist, but even so I can drop a pearl here and there before her, hopefully to give evidence that God does exist. I do it rarely now because God lets me know. If you don’t listen to when God says, “Go!”, it can backfire and the walls go up. The time is obviously not right. So I wait.
Am I wasting pearls before her? I don’t think so. For one, I don’t preach at her because what would be the point? That would be casting pearls before swine.
She’s obviously not ready for that.
I’m a different kind of Christian. I tend to be subtle.
Have you ever been around a person who, that’s all they talk about, as though just saying “Jesus this or Jesus that” makes them sound holy? Sometimes they go on and on like a broken record and in some cases they talk about their own salvation and how righteous they are? That’s not me. I don’t see my salvation as guaranteed. Oh, the price is paid, how a Christian lives their life is evidence of their acceptance of it’s value and I do appreciate that. But we’re living in tough times, how will I hold up? I stumble and fall sometimes but that doesn’t nullify my salvation. I believe the Bible talks of one unforgiveable sin and that is blasphemy of the holy spirit or blaspheming God. (you might be asking, is that what Peter did when he denied Christ? No, but that’s another discussion. )
A scripture that comes to mind, (Matt 23:27) is one of many where Jesus is talking about their resemblance to white washed tombs, appearing clean on the outside but in reality full of dead men’s bones, speaking specifically to the Scribes and Pharisees (the religious leaders of his day) condemning them for their superficial piety, but could apply to anyone that says “look here, I’m not like this person or that one”.
These leaders were sanctioned by God but had “proven false to their power”. (2 Tim3:1-5)
Years ago I was engaged in a ministry to reach people in remote areas to teach them the word of God. I’m not saying that to sound noble, but at the time I may have thought so. Many of the people we spoke to were Native American still steeped in much of their customs and in my mind at the time needing salvation. What I found was that like all indigenous peoples they had/have a deity, a god or in some countries several gods as most natives in all countries do. Where am I going with this? It goes back to something I remembered learning as a child and that reinforced something I’d never considered those many many years before.
It is evidence.
In the early 60’s when still a child, National Geographic did an article on the discovery of the Tasaday Indians in the Phillipines in the forests of Mindanao. What I found fascinating is that in this remote area and without a Bible they believed in God and better yet, these people had in their lore the story of the great flood! In my young mind, all I could think of is what better evidence to support the Bible could there be than that?
Even the Koran has a similar story line. It’s like the story was changed to fit their culture, but it’s what brings a commonality to us all. I know there will be some Christians and non who will be offended by that, but it is not intended to do so.
I remembered marveling at the pictures of this tribe who proved to me that God does exist. Do you remember when God became real to you? It cemented in my mind that God is real and His Word true. How else did they come to know these things? How else is there that common thread?
Since then, I’ve read other articles, but no one has called attention to that tidbit of information since. It has long since been swept under the rug and forgotten, but I didn’t forget reading it. It rooted my faith.
I think at some point, everyone will have their “Come to Jesus” moment in a unique way.
I’ve heard some people, say they saw angels, heard God and any number of other miraculous moments, but it doesn’t have to be a flash of light or anything supernatural. When the time is right and your heart is open, God’s message will arrive and suddenly, you’ll know. And in some cases, you will discover that you knew all along.
It may not come through the Bible or your best friend or a relative who has been preaching to you and at you for however long. When the time is right God will light the flame and it will simply be.
I thank all of my followers and hope you enjoy this post, which as most of you know is totally different than most. We all stemmed from one source. It is not meant to offend anyone but hopefully to bridge the gaps of our differences so that perhaps in time bring about a union and peace among all.
More importantly, let’s stop the hate.
Several years ago, my sweet sister came up to Alabama to help me care for my mother who had Alzheimer’s. It was a difficult time for me and there were times, I thought I would surely die before she did.
You see, mother not only had Alzheimer’s but she was a bi-polar schizophrenic with Alzheimer’s!
When my step father died, I had asked her doctor for some meds to keep her manageable, which he was kind enough to provide me. The problem however was getting her to take them. Getting her to take them resulted in me getting a black eye, which had my brother not seen it coming and blocked it would have resulted in a far worse shiner than it was. It was still bad. Mother had not handled the death of her husband well and I had noticed a marked difference in her behavior afterward. Understandably of course.
There were many times early on in their relationship that I had wondered if those two even loved each other. I had always thought he married her to give his four children a mother. He was in the Navy and gone all the time and his kids had been taken away from their mother due to abuse and neglect and were now in foster homes in Boston.
Little did he know mother’s mental state, as she was absolutely charming when she wanted to be. So, here these poor kids go from one abusive parent to another and he’s away at sea.
Mother on the other hand, was needing to get away from her abusive, inattentive, unambitious husband (my father). Mother had grown up poor and she aspired to be rich in America and that was the last thing my father would ever strive for. Even so, she’d learned some bad habits from him when it came to discipline which we paid for dearly.
Many years later, we’d all managed to survive and they, my step father and her, had managed to stay together. Granted early on he’d been away most of the time. When he retired from the Navy, he went to college for a short time, but with her ragging on him all the time, he finally took on as a trucker, where he’d be gone for long periods. She had many solitary days in the middle of nowhere on a couple of acres in California. Eventually, they’d move to Tennessee. While he was away she’d go on about how much she missed him and how hard he worked. Five minutes after his return, she’d be yelling at him! I would get so aggravated that his only response was always, “yes Vicky”. He never fought her, argued with her or anything. Now, I look back and realize that he knew and accepted her state of mind. She did make sure the kids were well fed, well cared for and though her discipline was harsh and often unreasonable, she did make sure their physical needs were met. I guess he figured it was the best he could give them and that she did the best she could. He was never mean or ugly to her no matter what she dished out. Never. For that I loved him. As I’ve mentioned before, she was harder on us girls than the boys, so my step brother and brothers grew to love her in ways we girls could never. And, so it went.
I was walking with my step dad one day and noticed an almost imperceptible wince. I asked him if he was alright and he said, “yeah”. I told him I didn’t believe him and had he gone to the doctors yet? He said he had an appointment the following week and I insisted I wanted to know as soon as he knew anything. Two weeks and four days later, he’d laid down on the floor to watch TV with mother on the couch beside him. The two of them had fallen asleep as was their routine. When she went to arouse him, he was gone. He’d been diagnosed with liver cancer the Friday before. He died on a Tuesday. She’d fortunately had the wherewithal to call the police, but they took their time to get there. Given her state of mind, she was notorious for calling them all the time. I would later find regular bills (amounting to thousands of dollars) from the police department for excessive false alarm calls. Did you know they did that? I didn’t.
So now he’s dead and there’s no will to be found. Single handedly, I spent days going through tons of paper trying to find a will. There was one record book with my name in it, but it was nearly forty years old and it wasn’t formal. I would later find 4-5 half started wills and that was it. Mother in her state of mind would hide things. I found so many multiples of documents and items around the house. She would hide them so well that if they couldn’t find them, they’d buy another. Oh, and QVC was her best friend. As she wouldn’t leave the house, she shopped online! But I digress.
So here I am, mulling through everything, going to court to get custody of her and her estate and afterward tracking down insurance policies and VA benefits and doing this all alone. I would talk to my sister on the phone and after two years of this, she made up her mind to leave her job and come up to help me. She had asked me a number of times if I needed her to do so but I vacillated saying yes. My other siblings, including my steps couldn’t. She was single and in a better position to come up but she’d be giving up her hard earned clientele and I couldn’t promise her anything that would match what she was making there. After some time, exhausted, I relented and said, yes. A few months after, I would have a mini stroke and end up in the hospital. By then, we were pretty settled in tag teaming mother’s care, but for the next ten days, she was on her own. I couldn’t have been more grateful.
Later she would tell me why she’d been so willing to be there for me. It wasn’t just because I was her sister or because mother needed our help. The tyranny of mother’s mental illness and the hardships we’d endured with her resulted in there being no love lost there, not for either of us but for some reason more so for her. She told me she could stand to lose mother, but she didn’t want to lose me because of her. It would be later that she and I would heal from that. Now, years later we are able to mourn the mother we never had and the mother she may have wanted to be or could have been.
What took me down this road and reminded me of all this is a story Linda Bethea has been sharing on her blog: Nutsrock . (There’s still time to catch up on it, so you may want to check out my link to her story. BTW if you want to go to the very beginning, it starts in April and is a worthwhile read of “Charley’s Tale“)
It was her latest installment that triggered the memory of my sister and the Red Bra. I’d not remembered the incident until my sister shared it with me. She calls it her “story of the Red Bra.” She said, it was in part, the reason she came to help me. It was because she would never forget how I stole a red bra for her. Incredulously I say, “I stole a red bra for you?! I don’t remember that.” As she tells her tale, I begin to remember what and how it all happened.
THE STORY OF THE RED BRA
My sister was the youngest of my siblings at the time. (This was prior to the reincorporation of the families)
It happens that she was just starting to mature and her little breasts were just budding. The boys in school were absolutely merciless and would pass by and pinch the girls, thinking it was funny. I don’t know why no one tells them that this can be extremely painful to us during this growth state. Dad was still around and he was just as bad, if not worse, thinking it was funny. We girls would walk around the house with our arms crossed when we passed him. It was not a good time.
Mother in general was unapproachable so you can imagine how difficult it was for my sweet, shy little sister to even broach the subject, but she did. Mother did not disappoint and proceeded to laugh and rail on her about how ridiculous her request was, saying. “you’re too young”, “too small” and too everything. The answer was an adamant “No!”
It was humiliating, but she sucked it up, retreated to our room and didn’t ask again.
In those days it wasn’t unusual for us kids to walk into town and on some occasions we’d take the bus. We’d hang out at the rec center and park or the plunge which was all within a few blocks of each other. It was a different time then.
As a kid, I was quite the thief. If I wanted something, I’d take it. (Not one of my proudest moments, but I was a natural) Although we weren’t poor, we kids weren’t allowed to get and or have the many things my peers were allowed to. As it was, I was an outcast and I was so desirous of being accepted and being “one of them”, that I guess I reasoned this was how I could do that. If I could just have what they had perhaps they’d like me. I really don’t know how my mind worked then. I was just a kid.
As I recall, it was shortly after her denied request, that I took my little sis into our local Five & Dime, i.e. Woolworth’s or Kresge’s, I don’t recall which. We had both.
In those days merchandise was all laid out neatly in bins. If you picked up an item, you folded it back up and replaced it to the best of your ability as neatly as you found it. It was common courtesy in those days. The only counters that didn’t seem to make it were those with cosmetics. For some reason, I’m guessing girls especially, would open up a tube of lipstick and forget to roll it back down before putting the cap back on it, resulting in quite a mess. For some reason, I don’t recall ever kyping makeup.
None the less, we went to the bins where all the bra’s were and started digging in, selecting a few before proceeding to the dressing rooms for her to try them on. These bins were the least neat given the nature of a bra’s composition.
I remember her trying on several ones and yes, at the time, many were too big for her, but that wasn’t the point. She needed body armor and that was all there was to it.
Why, we settled on the red one I don’t know, but there was obviously no accounting for taste in our selection, so we did. When things would get tough for her; when she thought there was no one else who would rally for her, she’d remember the Red Bra. She said the memory of the Red Bra would always be a reminder that she could always count on her big sister. Over the years, jealousy on both our parts would cause our relationship to wane and at times waver, but our love never did.
My stealing of one Red Bra so many years ago, now serves as a reminder for us both and how we could count on each other. She was there for me when I needed her, as I was for her so many years ago. It is the memory of the Red Bra that moved her to come to my aid and the story of her memory that makes me grateful for the bond that grew from the experience.
We now live on opposite ends of the States but we talk all the time and I miss her horribly as she does me. For a little while we got to be girls again and I miss that.